You feel a lot of love for someone and they do not take it. What do you do?
-Get Frustrated
-Turn the love into hatred and wish for revenge.
-Again and again remind them how much you love them and how little they love you.
-Become fussy and cranky
-Throw tantrums
-Feel humiliated and try to protect your respect.
-Resolve never to love again.
-Feel hurt and mistreated
-Try to be aloof and indifferent
… and you have seen that none of these work! They only make it worse.
what is the way out of this? How can you maintain your lovingness?
-Have patience.
-Be centered and limit your expression of love. Sometimes over expression of love puts people off.
-Change your expression of love.
-Take it for granted that they love you and accept their style of expression
-Genuinely acknowledge their love for you. This will turn your demand into gratefulness. The more grateful you are in life, more love comes your way.
-Know that hurt is part of love and take responsibility for it.
-Realize that when you move away from your center, you will feel miserable and that the nature of worldliness is misery.